Really funny, Sara! Your "me to me" conversation sounds mighty familiar. I do a lot of that! Good luck to you all on the upcoming eight weeks of co-habitation.
Haha omg I am dying! “Drinking at 4 and just hassling each other loudly while pounding cheese and waiting to die.” I think you’re right - on the one hand they don’t interfere, tell us how to parent or commit emotional blackmail like i suspect occurs in some cultural intergenerational situations, but they do treat it like a holiday and stick to the help they like giving vs the help we actually need. Families, amiiright?! Thank you for your hilariously real insights here 👏
I quite literally inhaled this post! Brilliant 😂😂😂😂 I cannot believe that you put up with that for 6 months. I am quaking and it's already in the past and had nothing to do with me, second-hand-horror 🤣
So funny Sara, cracked me up , laughed all the way through, especially the me to me conversation 🤣🤣🤣 how did Andrew manage it ? Was he just as frustrated? lol
I’m glad it gave you a chuckle 🤭 Poor Andrew had it worse than me - he couldn’t go and hide! He’s soft as 💩 tho when it comes to his parents so he tolerated it like a champ.
I really enjoyed this!! You are a saint!! I couldn’t live with my in laws. I moved in with my parents for 6 months when we were doing up our house, many years ago, and I actually cannot remember anything about it. At all. Some vague memories of eating food with them. I think I blocked the trauma. Have you watched the Apple TV show, Severance? This experience is definitely something that’s worth getting severed for. I look forward to your next post!
I think you’re right, Katie! The brain does block out trauma to protect us (see: childbirth). I wonder if my brain will do the same now that I’ve vomited all these words out. I’m glad you survived your 6 month sentence 🙏
Surviving six months earns a well deserved trip to Bali. Reading the part about buying sight unseen reminds me of that time I rented a place in Guatemala (also sight unseen) and survived one night before I demanded my money back found another place to stay 🙃
Thanks Bree! I’ll let my husband know about the trip to Bali. It must be coming my way soon! And I’m glad to hear there is someone else who excels at making irresponsible decisions too 😂
Loved this, proper made me laugh! If I didn't know better (i.e., my parents don't leave Surrey for longer than two weeks at a time), I'd say I had a long lost brother. Sue and Stu sound scarily similar to my own olds.
That was such a fantastic read Sara you are a saint! I also wonder if the obliviousness of Boomers is actually nature’s way of making it better for us when feel like wanting to kill them - at least they won’t notice 😃
Oh Sara, I can hardly wait to read to my hubs! I just read it to the morning health care aide that gives me respite during most mornings getting hubs organized in first thing.
He loves your sh*t. Seriously he does. I gotta go pee. NOW!
Really funny, Sara! Your "me to me" conversation sounds mighty familiar. I do a lot of that! Good luck to you all on the upcoming eight weeks of co-habitation.
Thank you, Wendy! I’m glad I’m not the only one who has these unproductive “pep talks” with myself 😂
I really relate! Thanks for writing that.
I think the problem is that , that generation are generaly so selfish and oblivious that they are a pain to be with.
In a true multi generation house hold such as Mexican , Turkish, or Italian, they would be helping out so much you wouldn't go nuts.
They wouldn't be drinking at 4 and just loudly hassling each other while pounding cheese and waiting to die.
Of course if you were in a different culture the help would have all sorts of other strings attached and would probably drive you equally nuts!
I had this same problem with my and my wife's boomer parents who don't help at all but just sit around thinking they are on holiday and hassle us .
We are the change.
A special breed.
The best
Haha omg I am dying! “Drinking at 4 and just hassling each other loudly while pounding cheese and waiting to die.” I think you’re right - on the one hand they don’t interfere, tell us how to parent or commit emotional blackmail like i suspect occurs in some cultural intergenerational situations, but they do treat it like a holiday and stick to the help they like giving vs the help we actually need. Families, amiiright?! Thank you for your hilariously real insights here 👏
I have heard sane familys exist but I'm yet to see it.
I hope to be the change, but we have our 29 year old back home with us and... We are kind of beating down on him ...ahha
Haha I'm sorry, but this made me laugh! I hope the eight weeks go fast!
I had to make it funny or I’d die!!!! I’m sure there will be a part 2 after the next visit 🫠
I quite literally inhaled this post! Brilliant 😂😂😂😂 I cannot believe that you put up with that for 6 months. I am quaking and it's already in the past and had nothing to do with me, second-hand-horror 🤣
Well I appreciate your solidarity! 💪 But don’t carry my trauma. Shake it off! 😂
So funny Sara, cracked me up , laughed all the way through, especially the me to me conversation 🤣🤣🤣 how did Andrew manage it ? Was he just as frustrated? lol
I’m glad it gave you a chuckle 🤭 Poor Andrew had it worse than me - he couldn’t go and hide! He’s soft as 💩 tho when it comes to his parents so he tolerated it like a champ.
Bless him lol , I love the bottles of wine everyday at 4pm 😁
EVERY DAY 😂
I really enjoyed this!! You are a saint!! I couldn’t live with my in laws. I moved in with my parents for 6 months when we were doing up our house, many years ago, and I actually cannot remember anything about it. At all. Some vague memories of eating food with them. I think I blocked the trauma. Have you watched the Apple TV show, Severance? This experience is definitely something that’s worth getting severed for. I look forward to your next post!
I think you’re right, Katie! The brain does block out trauma to protect us (see: childbirth). I wonder if my brain will do the same now that I’ve vomited all these words out. I’m glad you survived your 6 month sentence 🙏
Surviving six months earns a well deserved trip to Bali. Reading the part about buying sight unseen reminds me of that time I rented a place in Guatemala (also sight unseen) and survived one night before I demanded my money back found another place to stay 🙃
Thanks Bree! I’ll let my husband know about the trip to Bali. It must be coming my way soon! And I’m glad to hear there is someone else who excels at making irresponsible decisions too 😂
Loved this, proper made me laugh! If I didn't know better (i.e., my parents don't leave Surrey for longer than two weeks at a time), I'd say I had a long lost brother. Sue and Stu sound scarily similar to my own olds.
My condolence, Lewis! I think Stu and Stu might be the archetype for all English boomer parents 😂
I mean, you've definitely nailed the archetype!
That was such a fantastic read Sara you are a saint! I also wonder if the obliviousness of Boomers is actually nature’s way of making it better for us when feel like wanting to kill them - at least they won’t notice 😃
Haha I think you’re right! They really were non the wiser about my foul mood 😂
That was fun! Well, maybe not fun for you living it, but it was fun reading about it.
You’re welcome ☺️
Love this! I can relate!
Thanks, Howard!
You’re welcome!
Oh Sara, I can hardly wait to read to my hubs! I just read it to the morning health care aide that gives me respite during most mornings getting hubs organized in first thing.
He loves your sh*t. Seriously he does. I gotta go pee. NOW!
Donna you’ve made my day! 🥹 I hope it gives “Tit high” a few laughs today 😀
Good luck with the next visit! I've lived this life and I don't think I handled it as well as you. Can't wait to hear about the next visit.
8 weeks is still super long!! And I get it. I will be writing about my old living arrangement soon 🙏